Tuesday, December 27, 2016

A weekend wedding

My cousin Annie got married on Friday, December 16th in the Provo City Center temple in Utah. I hopped on a direct flight from Pasco, WA to Salt Lake City and spent the weekend catching up with my beloved extended family. Jeff stayed home with the kids and did all of the messy mom-work for 3 whole days while I was away. It was so strange to fly on an airplane alone! I read almost the entire two hours until the last 25 minutes when the tiny regional jet hit some rollercoaster turbulence and I couldn't hold my book still enough to read. I sat back, breathed deeply, and prayed that I wouldn't throw up while sitting ear to ear with 120 strangers. Thankfully we landed before my airsickness peaked, and I managed to at least partially unclench my upset stomach for the long walk through the airport.

My sister-in-law Dani was visiting her parents in Salt Lake City that same weekend, so my sister Em and I arranged to stay with her at their house. Dani picked me up at the airport. We got Chick-fil-a and stayed up late watching holiday chick flicks and talking about babies. Sisters are the best. On Friday morning, Dani dropped Em and I off at the nearby Murray Central train station so we could catch a train to Provo to attend Annie's sealing. Dani has never met Annie so she did not go with us. It was a blustery windy day and our hair was flying while we hunted for a ticket machine. When we started pushing buttons on the machine, it said that we could not purchase a ticket at that time. So we walked into a nearby building with official looking people in it and asked what to do. The lady told us that the machines were down and if we were asked to show a ticket on the train, we only had to give the officer the code word "bravo." So we dashed back out into the cold wind and waited for the train, joking about the code.

Em was out of her element. She is a virtual stranger to public transit, always preferring to drive herself around. Small town girl though I be, my interest in visiting big cities mixed with my distaste for driving in them has lead me to ride my share of trains and trams in my life. Em kept worrying and I kept assuring her that we would get on the right train. Em spoke words she has never in her life said to me: "you are in charge!" She relinquished her role as dominating older sister for 20 entire minutes on the train platform and I was as free as a bird, bossing her around, making decisions, and figuring things out. Haha! It was exhilarating! Maybe it was just the cold wind making me breathless and giddy, or it could've been the lack of small children to keep track of, but I think at least part of the carefree feeling was due to our sister role reversal. Em fretted whilst I reassured her, and at last our train arrived, we boarded (the correct one headed the correct direction, I might add), and settled in for the 51 minute ride to Provo.

My parents picked us up at the train station in Provo and drove us the mile or so to the new Provo City Center temple, where we met up with many beloved family members whom we haven't seen in years. Hugs all around! I love how the temple brings us all together. The temple was breathtakingly beautiful inside, with a Gothic arch in every doorway. I sat there admiring the craftsmanship and wondering the entire time what those "pointy arches" were called. The answer was just out of reach in some dusty corner of my brain. A little research later informed me that they are called Gothic arches. Of course! Well, Gothic arches make ordinary doorways into elegant portals, if you ask me. Back to the wedding: Annie was grinning from ear to ear and simply glowing, and her husband was too. Happy happy happy. My heart expanded with love and memories.

After the sealing, we took a few pictures outside. The sky darkened foreboding-ly and out of nowhere it started HAILING! We into a nearby restaurant for a delicious long lunch and good old fashioned family conversation. Then we power-walked a few more doors down to the reception venue to help set up and--of course--talk some more. The reception was lovely with a rustic classy charm. In honor of Annie's new husband (who's from Belgium), the reception was catered by a Belgian food cart with authentic machine gun sausage sandwiches and AMAZING Belgian waffles. My dad drove Em and me back to the train station to catch the 7:20pm train back to Salt Lake City. We had to RUN for it to catch the train! Dani picked us up and we went back to her house for another late girls night.

On Saturday, Dani and I froze ourselves on a brief 3 mile run, then went out for some Kneaders French toast with Em. We had a pleasant day hanging out and caught planes home after church on Sunday. I'm so glad I was able to slip away for the weekend, see my cousin get married, and spend quality sister/family time! I have a few phone-pictures of the weekend.

 WINDY! Waiting at the train station. Em did a double-chin pose for fun, and her hair blew onto her neck to make it into six chins! We were laughing our heads off! Em doesn't read this blog so she'll never know that her chins are posted on the world wide web. Muahaha.





 A mom and 2/3 of her girls. Crazy to think that the next wedding we all attend will probably be our sister Mel's (she returns from her mission in Cambodia in March!)



Machine gun sandwich and a Belgian waffle with cream on top. MMMM.


I would've taken at least a couple more grainy cell phone pictures, but my phone was having battery issues that day and it actually died while I was at the reception. I mooched most of these pictures off of Em.

Brooke (Annie's older sister), Hadrien, Annie, Em, and me. Cousins! I don't have that many cousins, so this is a bigger deal than it may seem. On my mom's side (the side with Brooke and Annie) I have five cousins, and on my dad's side, I have eight cousins. [not counting cousins' spouses]

Meanwhile, back at the ranch...one week before I left for the wedding, Amber suddenly started using the potty. Like, she stripped out of her pants and diaper repeatedly and actually peed and pooped in the potty. So I put some of Jay's old training undies on her and watched the story unfold. I had been letting her sit on the potty once a week at most for the past two months or so, but she hadn't really cared too much or done much on it. Then she learned how to open doors at the beginning of December, and I could no longer lock her out of the bathroom. I had to hide the toothpaste and the toilet paper. Then she started removing her pants and diaper and climbing up onto the potty (she can even climb up without a stool, little MONKEY). This girl can get into ANYTHING she sets her mind on. Nothing is safe. So many messes. So much destruction. Way more than her siblings at this age.

Amber had ZERO accidents for the first two days she was in underwear. What? Yeah, I was in shock. Then the potty was no longer quite so much of a novelty and she started missing occasionally. Now, three weeks later, we are to the point where if Amber has not pooped yet in the day, we keep her in a diaper in self defense against disgusting underwear messes. But she is still doing an amazing job for a self-taught barely two-year-old. I have learned enough from two vastly different previous potty trainings to roll with it and let Amber lead the way. When I was gone at the wedding for three days, however, Jeff was thrown into the deep end of early potty training without a life vest. I am familiar with Amber's elimination rhythms so if I pay attention I can usually make sure she's on the potty at the right times each day. Jeff was not up to speed on such matters and therefore suffered through numerous nasty messes in my absence.

A certain text from Jeff early in my weekend away made me feel...validated? vindicated? Mostly amused:


 Early on in the potty game--note the excited wonder on her face.

Getting used to it. 

The queen on her throne--"this is old news to me now," she says.

 She likes to climb up and stand on the potty before sitting down / the first car ride wearing undies. "Dude!" Amber said.

Hand-me-down training pants from her big brother. 

Breakfast at Kneaders. It was my first time eating there and I thought it was pretty good. It seemed that the main draw is more the "bottomless" part of the French toast rather than the French toast itself. Or, the fact that a bottomless food actually tastes good rather than toxic. It was good. I shared my strawberries with Derek (cute lil nevvy that he his)

Toldja he was cute. Derek is my brother Brad and his wife Dani's son. Somehow Brad and Dani escaped all 3 of the pictures I took, sneaky folks.


Monday, December 26, 2016

Pre-Christmas traditions

The kids had an entire week off of school leading up to Christmas. It was frigid cold and we were mostly home home home inside together. That gave us plenty of time to do our favorite family pre-Christmas traditions. We keep some traditions from mine or Jeff's childhood, but my favorites are always the ones that we have created especially for our own family. We didn't start out our marriage with a list of "traditions to start"; our traditions are more organic--they mostly grew out of "that one time that we did that fun thing." When I thought about it, I realized that most of the traditions I grew up loving came about the same way. That's what makes traditions special. Three of our favorite homegrown pre-Christmas traditions include: Santa Jeff visiting, gingerbread house decorating, and block building.

SANTA
For family home evening last week, Jeff dusted off the Santa suit I made him last year, shoved a pillow up his shirt, and HO HO HO'd merrily at his children while I attempted to take pictures in the low light (our family room has zero lights in the ceiling, a true plague to my photography). Amber would NOT go near Jeff while he was talking and ho-ho-ho-ing in that fleece beard. It was so funny! She clung to my leg until Jeff lowered his beard and beckoned to her in his normal voice. Even then she took a whole lot of persuading! It is so much fun starting our own traditions, and this is one of my favorite. 










Pillow Santa/skinny Santa. I was laughing my head off at his transformation!

Bahaha, unfair that Jeff had to sit there while I messed with camera settings in an attempt to gather more nonexistent light. But this picture makes me chuckle merrily. That is one authentic stomach.

Gingerbread Houses
Another tradition that we started relatively recently is making gingerbread houses. It was not a childhood tradition for Jeff or me. I'm not exactly sure what inspired me to start this one up because making pretty things out of food has never been my forte, but for one reason or another, we have decorated gingerbread houses at Christmas for the past three or four years. On Thursday, December 22nd, we were all half sick, half cabin-fever-crazy at 4pm. We needed an activity to carry us through till dinnertime. 

With one part of my brain acknowledging my insanity, I suggested that we make gingerbread houses. The kids agreed readily, and we started to get out the supplies, only to discover that we were completely out of graham crackers and I had forgotten to refresh lour stock of decorative candy. Make-it-work-with-what-we-have is our modus operandi around here, so we got creative. Thankfully we had enough leftover bulk Winco candy from last year's graham-house-a-rama, but what to build the house out of? No way was I going to bake actual gingerbread. That would take forever! I discovered half a box of Rice Krispys and some marshmallows in the pantry, and an idea formed: make a rice crispy treat house! We whipped up a big bowl of rice krispy treats, spread the goo nice and thin on a cookie sheet, refrigerated it for a few minutes to firm it up, and then got to work on the construction. 

I sliced strips of RKT (Rice Krispy Treat) and made a rectangle, stacking the pieces like sod. The RKT was too bendy and wimpy to use for a roof, so another scour of the pantry yielded an old box of Triscuits. Our house quickly became a castle with Triscuit towers. We microwaved some marshmallows for glue, and the resulting white stretchy sticky substance was reminiscent of massive spider webs. Trying not to let my mind morph our Christmas gingerbread house [already downgraded to a Rice Krispy castle] into Shelob's lair, we proceeded with the decorating. The melted marshmallows would not spread and I developed a haphazard anchor-and-stretch technique to apply it to the castle. I felt like a general commanding the troops while I told the kids where to put the candies as I stretched long marshmallow strings around the perimeter. Jeff hovered in the background, abnormally concerned about the MESS everyone was making, dumping out candies, knocking things over, and clamoring for tastes, nibbles, and sugar, sugar, sugar. Role reversal! For some reason the mess did not concern me for once, and at last the creation was complete. The kids' bellies were replete with year old-candy and my hands were covered in fast-congealing marshmallow goop. General Shaina put Jeff on camera duty.


Love: Amber's concentration lips in the background.


The entire edifice kept sagging and drooping, and within ten minutes after I stopped pushing it back into position, it collapsed into a sticky mess.





{Traditional post-gingerbread house decorating family picture}

Building
We are a "building toy" family, and every year the kids get a new type of block or building material for Christmas. I can't resist! Building toys are FUN, brainy, and have great play-value. Somehow along the way Christmas break became family building time--we gather a bunch of blocks, bricks, and tracks from the playroom, and build cities, houses, and towers together by the Christmas tree. 








 Amber's lip of thought.


 Amber took off her necklaces and draped them over the blocks she was building with to make them pretty.

 That concentrating lower lip.

 My favorite corner of one particular town is the countryside, complete with book-illustrated backdrops and livestock munching brick block green grass near a tractor in the foreground.


After all of that playing, Jay and Rose like to finish the day off with a sibling sleepover. During their Christmas break so far, they have slept in Jay's bed, on the floor of the playroom, and on the girls' bedroom floor. They load up on blankets, stuffed animals, and random other items and then play an extra hour till 8pm. Jay always stays up till 8, but Rose falls asleep within minutes of her 7pm bedtime. Rose has always needed more sleep than Jay so we have to limit sleepovers. Supply and demand have skyrocketed the value of sibling sleepovers in the White house!